A child falls down many times to eventually succeed in riding her bike to a friend’s house.

A business owner finds that her inspections didn’t pass the first time delaying the project timeline but passes the second time.

A photojournalist loses three of his limbs in Afghanistan only to go on to inspire millions through his speaking and photographs.

These seem like very different events. However, these three events do have something in common.

What, you ask?

Resilience.

According to Psychology Today, resilience “allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever.” Let’s face it. When you’re experience those hurdles, it isn’t always easy to move through it. It’s a process of acknowledging the pain, recognizing the situation as it is, and, in some cases, working through the stages of grief.

What makes someone bounce back? Psychologists have identified factors that make someone resilient. Those factors include:

• Optimism
• Positive Attitude
• The ability to regulate emotions
• The ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback

When you experience a set back, ask which element is missing for you. Then, ask yourself, “If I put in that element, how would that make a difference in overcoming my challenge?”