Did you know that according to an American Management Association survey, over 25% of a leader’s time is spent resolving staff disputes and miscommunication? If left unresolved, these clashes only emerge later to create new problems in other areas.
Your understanding of human wiring can often resolve many of these staff disputes and miscommunication. As you know, your wiring is neurological, it is noticeable about two years old, and stays with you your entire lifetime.
Human wiring is distinct from behaviors. As you know, you don’t behave the same way that you did when you were 18 years old. Why? All of the external influences, like education, culture, and experiences.
Each and every day, you will communicate through the lens of your own wiring. With each person operating to get their own wiring met, it can be tricky to resolve disputes. As a leader, knowing about a person’s wiring comes in handy especially when you need to say no.
Let’s face it. You may be the best boss on earth, but you will need to say no to your employees from time to time.
For any number of reasons, you may need to reject an idea, turn down a vacation request, or decline a raise. If you want the business to succeed, you can’t avoid these types of scenarios.
As a leader, you can communicate with effectiveness and grace when you deliver information with a person’s natural wiring in mind. When you hone the leadership skill of delivering information the way the other person needs to receive it, you’re honoring each other’s uniqueness.
Here are two tips to keep in mind when having to say no to someone who is wired with a high degree of autonomy also known as the direct, demanding, and decisive doer:
1. Be in their world.
As a leader, you’re communicating from your own natural wiring, too. Before delivering the news to your team member, be in their world.
Notice the subtle cues others give you in how they want their information. If your team member is higher on the autonomy spectrum they often will use terms, such as I, me, and my instead of we and us. They have a high degree of confidence that their ideas are the best and push back assertively especially if something is important to them.
When you say no or say “it can’t be done” you ping them to want to do it. In fact, you just challenged them. Depending on the amount of this wiring trait, they like, want or need a challenge.
2. Frame it.
Framing how you say something can mean the difference between getting buy in or not. When working with someone whose wiring measures high on the autonomy spectrum, you might say, “I understand why you want to go in that direction, perhaps you could give me some ideas on how you could make that happen while addressing these concerns.”
In framing it this way, you are problem solving with them. When they have the ability to put their thumbprint on the idea, there is often buy in. They also may have solutions to the concerns creating an optimal outcome.
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