What went wrong?
What’s going on?
According to Psychology Today, ghosting is abruptly ending communication with someone without explanation. While some people believe it’s a way of coping with decision fatigue others believe that ghosting is troubling given it offers no sense of completion.
There’s value in completion. Think of a time where you:
-Completed a 5k run
-Returned the sales person call that you wouldn’t be working with them
-Achieved a stretch goal you didn’t think you could
-Finished a difficult class
-Gave your employer the required notice
-Sat through a boring event because you gave your word you would be there to support someone
In each of these cases, you completed: a goal, a conversation or a promise. You gave them feedback. You allowed them to move on. You honored your word.
Completing conversations, relationships, business arrangements, or commitments allows you to say what there is to say, clarify misperceptions, be your word, finalize a transaction, acknowledge someone, or stretch yourself beyond your self-imposed limits.
When you complete a commitment, relationship, transaction, or goal with full ownership of your part, you can walk away:
With a new perspective
Where in your life could you complete something that is unsaid or undone? If you need to complete conversations, start with taking full responsibility of your part.
- I promised I would follow up and didn’t and the impact is….
- I haven’t told you and was keeping it in and there’s an impact on you…
- I wasn’t intentional about fulfilling my promise and the impact on you is…